The pre-menstrual phase of my cycle is my favorite part of my cycle.

Let me say that again: I love PMS. Yep. I really do.

But it wasn’t always this way.

For nearly two decades I suffered from intense knock-me-to-my-knees (in public spaces no less) menstrual cramps, embarrassing hormonal cystic acne and crushingly low levels of self-esteem in the week or so leading up to my period.

But not anymore.

Sure, part of it is just getting older and my body coming into itself and a more gentle rhythm. But a larger part of it has been intentionally developing and trusting my intuition and building a nourishing spiritual and personal practice that supports my intuition.

Today, as a 35 year old woman, my PMS symptoms include impatience and irritability– things I would take any day over debilitating cramps and painful, scarring, acne. Plus, I know exactly what my impatience and irritability are trying to tell me and what to do about it:

Seek more pleasure.

When you’re in the pre-menstrual/luteal phase of your cycle, your emotions are especially tuned. Each one is sending you a message about what is working in your life and what isn’t. If something is making you super grouchy, it’s a sure sign that that something needs to be addressed, changed or evicted from your life. If something, like chocolate and your favorite Netflix show, gives you pleasure, that sensation is telling you that now is the perfect time to indulge.

And if you don’t menstruate? No worries. That’s what we have the waning moon for.

When I was younger my body was trying to tell me that I wasn’t being true to it. I was running around trying to perform for a masculine world in a way that would garner male approval– and for the most part it worked. But it wasn’t until I started intentionally cultivating more feminine ways of being, and ending a few toxic relationships along the way, that my body started to calm down and give herself over to the pleasures of being a woman. No more cramps. No more acne.

What is your body trying to tell you?

If you’d like to learn more about the Pleasure Cycle, including how I used the macro and micro layers of this cycle to turn my sex life around (yep! PMS saved my sex life!), check out my upcoming two-part workshop on The Blueprint Cycles by clicking on the image below.