Learning to identify when I’m in a GROWTH cycle has changed the way I relate to my body. I know this phase is largely about the mind, but mindset and belief has a lot of affect on the body.
In my teens and 20’s I was always “the fit one.” Exercising was my hobby and showing restraint around food was my superpower. When I became pregnant in 2012, the year I turned 30, I was shocked to gain more than 60 pounds with my pregnancy. After my darling Cuen was born, I began biohacking my diet and exercise habits and lost 50+ pounds by my son’s first birthday— only to become pregnant again. I kept up a healthy pregnancy with my second son and staved off most of the weight gain– only to balloon up again during the last trimester. It’s just what my body does when it’s pregnant.
After my second son was born, I was eager to get back to biohacking my way back to 125 pounds . . . but something was different. I no longer had the morale or motivation to stick to a diet program. So I tried another one. And another one. I’d do well for awhile but inevitably I’d rebel against whatever restrictions I was trying on and end up gaining more weight rather than losing weight.
It took many bathroom floor breakdowns and “failed” attempts for me to release control entirely and stop trying to get back to some manufactured “ideal.”
I came to realize that having two babies was A LOT different than having one. That while I could easily manage my diet and exercise with restriction and dedication after my first baby, I was now in a different life phase– one that didn’t respond well to those rules. In fact, I was in Blueprint Cycle No. 4– Relaxation.
BUT, just as we have different life phases, those phases have micro layers at the monthly and even daily level. The thing is, I LIKE exercise. My body is hungry for it. So I learned to identify the daily and monthly slots when I was temporarily in Cycle No. 1: GROWTH, the ideal time for putting new habits and projects in motion. I harnessed these micro-cycles to get my mindset and habits aligned with where I wanted my health (not weight). I also learned to identify where I was overly in a feminine way of being and how to balance that with a little masculine juju to maximize the results of my efforts, and vice versa: I learned where I was being overly masculine and how to soften my approach with a little femininity.
And it’s working. Three years after my second (and last!) son was born, I’m still chubbier than I was when I became pregnant with him. But I’m also a lot healthier– in mind, body and spirit. I don’t even want to get to 125 pounds again– though 135 would be nice! But, at this time of my life, I know there’s only one way I’m going to get there: by following my Blueprint Cycles– not someone else’s and I’m staying the course.
I also realized that the world of biohacking is actually the attempt to “hack” the circadian rhythm– the rhythm that dominates men’s lives but takes a backseat to the menstrual and moon rhythms of women. Once I started following the right rhythm– The Blueprint Cycles– things started falling into place with more grace and ease.
I’ve bundled the wisdom of The Blueprint Cycles into a two-part workshop, which will be recorded live on December 12th and 13th at a special price. I’ll be talking in-depth about how I apply this wisdom to diet and exercise (which is really about habits). I’ll also be talking about energy management, identifying your own cycles and how the moon and seasonal cycles reflect and work in tandem with The Blueprint Cycles. You can learn more and join the workshop by clicking the image below– it’s available on a sliding scale for a limited time and includes a 50+ page PDF transcript and notes!