I began mentoring privately with intuitive counselors almost a decade ago. Of all of the ways I’ve learned to access higher guidance and increase the clarity around those messages, one tip has by far been the most effective and practical:
Keep an intuitive journal.
The idea is simple. Have a notebook dedicated to recording all of the ways you interact with your intuition. Did you pray for guidance on something? Write it down and date it. Did a strange synchronicity occur? Write it down and date it. Did you pull a tarot card about The Thing and now you’ve decided to do this not that?
Yep. Write it down and date it.
Then get in the habit of reviewing this journal regularly. Say– every Sunday. Pretty quickly you will start to notice patterns and repeated intuitive events that were all pointing towards an action or a solution. This is beneficial for three reasons:
1: If you hadn’t been keeping track it would have been super easy and super probable that you wouldn’t have noticed the several ways your intuition was coming to your aid. You might have even dismissed all the signs altogether.
2: You now have concrete proof that your intuition exists and is working to conspire in your favor. Proof. It is so much easier for your brain to surrender to something that has some sort of form or substance. By writing down your intuitive hits, synchronicities, signs and other magical occurrences, you’ve given form to the formless. Your brain is now a more willing participant in this whole “letting go and letting God” business.
3. You also have a better idea on how exactly you receive intuitive/divine guidance. Is it a song lyric in your head? Quirky license plate messages? A feather on the ground? A strong gut instinct? All of the above? Something different and wackier? Whatever it is, you’ll now be able to recognize it more clearly when it’s in front of you and you’ll be primed to trust it.
If you want to amplify your intuition, receive more divine guidance and clarity in your life, my recommendation is simple: Keep and intuitive journal.
I’ve taken this concept a step further and included dream messages (when we dream we are in the same brain state as life long deep meditators and we’re literally halfway between this world and the next. Divine guidance is so easy to receive in dreams) and moon/womb cycles– all of which affect each individual woman’s intuition differently.
The latest version of my dream, divination and lunar intuitive journal, DIVINA, is now available. Order it and get started on your own intuitive journaling practice right away! All of the journaling prompts for each day are already laid out for you. In addition, part one of the journal is a 22 page how-to that dives deeper into the whys and how of keeping an intuitive journal.
If receiving divine guidance while you sleep is something that sounds pretty darn cool to you (it is!) but you have a hard time remembering your dreams, you don’t know where to even begin trying to interpret them, or you want to know how to dream intentionally, this course is for you.
Four modules with several PDF/audio lessons in each module: Recalling and Re-entering Dreams, Dream Interpretation Techniques, The Ancient Art of Dream Incubation plus Dreamwork For Kids and How To Work With Nightmares.
And if you know anyone who is a strong dreamer, wishes they were, or who is trying to amplify their intuition/see more magic around themselves, please forward this article to them!
In love and sacred darkness,
At this point in my life, I am not a “sit for 20 minutes and OMMMMM” kind of mediator. I’ve said it before, but I’m also not a yogi. I can forsee, however, both “traditional” meditation and yoga being very valuable and enjoyable to me when I’m older– like kids are out of the house and I may or may not be a widow– older.
That said, there are many ways I seek to obtain the benefits of yoga-and-meditation . . . without doing yoga and meditation.
Dreaming is one of them.
Realizing dreaming is a form of meditation went right along with everything else about dreaming: I didn’t appreciate it until I lost it when I became a mother. I got very, very, little sleep the first 8 months of my eldest son’s life. When he turned a year old, I was just beginning to turn a corner within myself. I was sleeping more, feeling better and had lost 50 of the 60 pounds of pregnancy weight. And then I accidentally became pregnant again.
When Arlo was born 20 months after my first son, Cuen, I was thrown back into sleepless nights, a unrecognizable (but oh-so-powerful) body, an barely anytime to complete a thought, let alone a book or an article. Dreaming was a thing of the past. You’ve probably heard this story before. It’s how I came to create the DIVINA journal.
But it wasn’t until recently, now that Arlo is a month shy of turning three, that I began using dreaming as meditation again. My boys have begun to wake up early and head straight downstairs to play or to spend time with their dad, who is always up with the sunrise, if not a few minutes before. They no longer rush into my room to snuggle or demand my attention– at least not on a daily basis. On these days when they are content in one another’s attentions, I find myself slipping in and out of the liminal space between waking and dreaming. That space where your outside surroundings begin to blend with your dreamscape. This is the space where powerful dream messages or revelations can occur. It feels good. It feels . . . dreamy. Safe. warm. It can be addictive and hard to actually wake up!
Here’s how I do it:
I usually am awoken momentarily by someone or something. As I decide I can afford to go back to sleep for a bit, I start scanning my memory for any dreams from the night before. I want to remember them. If I can find a dream, I latch onto it and begin to replay it in my mind, analyzing it as I go, and then I slip back into the dream– with a little more conscious awareness than I did the first time I had the dream. This allows me to learn more, to experience more, or just rest more in the world of the dream. It is, for me, meditation.
If I can’t find a dream to slip back into, I just keep scanning my memory and soon I’m in the same space but I may be inside an actual memory or inside a new dream that is being created on the spot. Sometimes it’s both. Or all three.
But it’s less about what is going on in my mental movie theater and more about the mental and emotional state I’m in: calm, peaceful, intrigued.
This is also a great tip for how to get into a lucid dream if you’re into that sort of thing!
One of my favorite things about dreaming as spiritual practice is that YOU ARE DOING IT ANYWAY. With just a few small efforts and a little bit of attention, you can easily turn your dreams into a spiritual practice and as a way to commune with the Divine.
Give it a go and tell me about on Instagram! @darlaantoine
In love and sacred darkness,
There’s been a trend over the last few decades or so, to psychoanalyze our spiritual experiences. Actually, it’s more than that. It’s more like psycho-personalize or psycho-personify our spiritual experiences. Any negative emotions you have towards someone else is a projection of your shadow and you need to “look within” to heal it. How convenient for the other person who doesn’t need to look within themselves at all to see if there is any harsh truth to your “negative” reaction to something they did or said to you.
Dreams have taken a huge hit with this approach. While Jung made amazing strides to understanding our dream life, and Freud had his moments too, they also inadvertently took a lot of the magic and spirit out of dreams by leading us to believe that every aspect of the dream is an aspect of the dreamer.
In my experience, this just isn’t true.
Sometimes when you dream, you literally travel to other worlds and realms or even just other parts of this world. You can interact with other people who are astrally traveling and you can interact with other spirits. These people and spirits exist beyond you. They are not an aspect of your subconscious.
Other times, you can travel in between worlds and learn new skills, meet with your guides and do other work to prep you for spiritually upgrading in a physical body.
Some of us are even Dream Walkers by trade or by choice and we have a soul agreement that we will travel while we dream and we will enter other people’s dreams. We do this to help them with psychic battles, to help them learn something or lead them to something they need to see or understand. You know you’ve been dream walking when you wake up feeling tired and know thatt you’ve been “dreaming” all night but can’t remember a thing, or you do remember the dream (or parts of it) but you have a sense that you were just a bystander and that the dream really had nothing to do with you.
Which also stands to reason that any or all of the characters in your dream could in fact be a fellow incarnated soul, walking into your dreams to provide assistance of some kind.
So how do you determine if a character in a dream is an aspect of you or not?
Unfortunately, for most people, this isn’t a cut and dry answer. It takes many weeks, months or even years of paying attention to your dreams and the subtle energies that are attached to each dream and the even more subtle energies attached to each character in a dream. But a good place to start is to ask yourself “is this character an aspect of myself?” and see what your intuition tells you. Another great question is “What does this character have to teach me? Or why is this character in my dream” which can lead you to a deeper understanding whether or not the character is a part of you and whether or not you have determined it’s origin.
You don’t always need to know if the character is an aspect of you in order to learn from the dream or the character. However, I believe that assuming every character is ALWAYS an aspect of you is a limiting view on the power and reach of dreams and is also more than a little ego or self-centric.
If you want to fast-track your knowledge about dreams as divine guidance, check out A Course On Dreams and make sure you are signed up to my newsletter where I will soon be announcing a special summer edition of A Course On Dreams.
In love and sacred darkness,
When I was a little girl, I used to look out the window at the mountains surrounding our little valley. I knew the names of each of those mountains. Those mountains held stories. Family stories. I’d look at the tall pine trees standing watch along the ridge lines, outlined against the blue sky background, and I’d imagine those trees were my ancestors. Standing watch over me. Over us. I wished on those trees. Just like my mother did when she was growing up in the same valley, watching and wishing on the same mountains, with the same evergreen centurions.
It was a soul need to hear the mountains whisper the same blessings they had whispered to Okanagan mothers and their babies for eons.
As an Okanagan tribal member who grew up in the Okanagan highlands, I’m one of the few that can claim to have grown up in their ancestral homelands. One of the even fewer indigenous people who can claim so. What with forced removal, reservations, colonization, globalization and the ease of growing up and moving away these days. But I grew up where my mother grew up and where my ancestors were always at least a seasonal presence before that. Way before that. Way before the first European ever even dreamt of putting foot on our shores.
Growing up this way, there was a sense of security and rootedness that I took for granted, as all children take the blessings they were born into for granted. I was restless. Eager to see more of the world. I went to college only two hours away but I got married shortly after graduation and moved halfway across the States. I moved again to Southwest and then to Spain.
All of this moving and seeing the world was fantastic for my wandering soul. I felt free and secure in new environments, rather than scared or uncertain.
After a few years, I divorced my first husband and ran away to Costa Rica to grieve in private and to reclaim my independence. I met a redhead with a wild look in his eye and enjoyed a brief (less than 24 hours) flirtation with him. We exchanged email addresses and a promise to let him know if I was ever back in the country. Two years went by. On another whim, I decided to go back to Costa Rica as a graduation gift to myself for finishing grad school. I emailed the redhead.
For the first time I realized that my soul needed to catch up with my body.
Ten months later I was pregnant with our first child. A year later, we broke ground on our house. Another 10 months later and I was pregnant with our second child.
In July of 2014, I sat on the gorgeous bed that my wild redhead had made with his own hands, trying to nurse our newborn second son. My body was unrecognizable to me after a second pregnancy, a second 60-pound weight gain, and a second emergency c-section. I lived on top of a cold mountain in a tropical country in a beautiful farmhouse on a beautiful farm, but it too was all unrecognizable.
I was panicking.
After 15 years of traveling and wandering the world and of calling 15 different places “home,” I felt desperate to go capital-H Home. To my homelands. But it wasn’t really homesickness. It wasn’t that I was unhappy in Costa Rica or with the redhead (I wasn’t and I’m not).
It was a primal need to see pine trees.
It was a soul need to hear the mountains whisper the same blessings they had whispered to Okanagan mothers and their babies for eons. To see the evergreen centurions standing watch on top of the ridge and to dedicate my sons into their care.
And for the first time, I realized that my soul needed to catch up with my body. My physical body was happy to wander and to put down roots half a world away from it’s homelands. But my soul had yet to anchor into this new earth. I knew I needed room to explore the spiritual wisdom of this new land while still honoring and, more importantly, remembering, the old land.
So I did the only thing I know how to do when it comes to the soul. I did the only thing I could do that let me be in both places at once: I journaled.
And now the same magical journaling process that I developed for myself, can be adapted for your own spiritual nourishment as well.
If you’re in unfamiliar territory, whether it’s motherhood, a new country, a new career or a new stage in life, DIVINA can help tether your soul to your roots while giving you the freedom to explore new horizons.
DIVINA gives you daily space and accountability to record the musings, insights and guidance from your subconscious. Dreams, intuition, synchronicity, divinations, your menstrual or lunar cycle, gratitude, signs, omens, emotions and reflections all have their place in this journal. Over time, you’ll build a compendium of insight that can be invaluable in determining just how the Divine is communicating to you and what your next move should be.
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Happy Holy Days,
From the archives and just in time for Halloween, Samhain, Day of the Dead and All Saint’s Day! The veil between world’s is thinner this time of year and it’s perfect for trying to contact departed loved ones. Stay tuned all week!
Although I dream vividly and often, I don’t get many nighttime visitations from those who have gone before me. And I’m okay with that. However, when I’m very stressed or on the brink of a major life shift/change, I find myself reaching out to my paternal grandparents subconsciously.
It goes like this:
I find myself outside their home, a home I knew very well as a child. It’s dark and cold, as if we were on the cusp of the first snow of the season. I often feel relieved, as if a long journey has been successful and is, finally, over. There are lights on inside and a promise of many levels of warmth.
I find myself inside and see my grandparents, sitting in their reclining chairs opposite one another, just like they did in life. They turn to greet me, happy and welcoming as if I really did just complete a long journey to come home. I walk over to them, relief already softening my body, and sit down on the floor between them. And then I start talking. I start telling them about everything in my life, what’s going great, what’s bothering me, and where my aim is at the moment. They listen and smile and when I’m done they open their mouths to give me advice.
And this is where, every time, my consciousness backs away from the dream. Fade to black. I feel my awareness zoom backwards out of the room, leaving my subconscious self alone with her grandparents, their ancestral love and their wisdom.
I wake up from these dreams feeling less burdened and with a peace that reminds me everything is going to be alright. I’ve never felt the need to know or remember what advice my grandparents have given me. Instead, I know the very act of reaching out to them, and being received by them in turn, is a potent medicine in and of itself.
I’ve had this dream probably half a dozen times in my adult life. They usually come unbidden, as a natural reflex to impending change and the stress that accompanies it, but I’ve also learned how to have this dream on-demand.
Dreaming with a Departed Loved One
There are many reasons to contact a departed loved one through dreaming. You may need to offer or ask for forgiveness, tell them how much you love them, confirm that they are okay, ask their advice, tie up loose ends or even ask where the damn key to the file cabinet is. In turn, your departed loved one may have just as much reason, and urgency, to contact you.
The dreamspace is a great place to make this contact. A sort of no-man’s land, dreamspace is equally accessible by the living and the dead alike. In fact, it is probably a lot easier for your departed loved one to gather the energy to appear in your dream than it is for them to gather the energy to tip over a vase or make the radio go haywire to get your attention.
Yes, these dreams can happen spontaneously, and are a great gift when they do, but there are also things you can do to give the dreams a little more oomph and to alert your departed loved one that you’d like to make contact:
- If you haven’t already, create a small altar or shrine for your loved one. Put their picture there along with a few of their favorite earthly possessions and/or foods. Spend a few minutes looking at the photo and remembering them, sending them your love, everyday.
- Throughout the day, talk to you loved one in your head. The conversation can come and go– pick it up whenever you’re aware that you have a few moments to do so– like a long continuous prayer. Sending them love and thought energy serves to alert them to your desire to communicate as well as lends them a little extra energy that they can follow to you.
- Before bed, create a small evening ritual with a bath/shower, essential oils, candlelight and soothing music. This ritual can look however you’d like it to, but try to engage all of your senses through a sense of calm. Hold your intention and desire to communicate with your loved one while you perform your ritual(s).
- It may help immensely to write down your intent on a notepad next to your bed. The notepad will also serve to write down the dream, even in the middle of the night, when you wake up from it. “I intend to communicate with Grandma tonight to ask her about ________” Or, “Dear Grandma, I could really use your help right now and would love to meet you in the dreamspace tonight” are examples of intentions.
Repeat these steps everyday until you’ve had your dream. You may get lucky and have success on your first day. More likely, it will take you (and your loved one) several days to find each other in the dreamspace. Expect to give this exercise at least 3 days and as many as 10. If after two weeks you still have not had contact, I would consider trying a different ancestor or searching yourself to see if you have received your answer subconsciously.
What to do with Your Dream
After you’ve had your dream, give thanks to your loved one and send them love– this sort of energy nourishes spirits. Besides, you don’t know what effort or lengths they went to to show up for your dream, so if you ever hope to dream with them again, you’d better show your appreciation.
Some other things to do with the dream:
- Write it down– whatever you can remember from it. A snatch, a book. A sentence. Write it down to honor it.
- Act on the dream. You’ll know what to do.
- Was there something your loved one asked you to do for them? Do it.
- If they didn’t explicitly ask you to do something for them, is there something you can do anyway? Share the dream with someone else they love. Go for a walk through their favorite place in nature, in their honor. Clean their grave site and leave their favorite flowers.
Have you had a dream visit from a departed loved one? I’d love to hear about it in the comments!
In all things, cherish the dream.