The Most Important Part Of Interpreting Your Dream: How It Feels

The Most Important Part Of Interpreting Your Dream: How It Feels

When you wake up from a busy dream with a lot of crazy elements, it can be overwhelming when trying to figure out where to start interpreting the meaning of the dream, or if to start interpreting the dream at all. What if it was just a crazy dream releasing suppressed emotions and experiences? But what if it’s the most symbolically packed dream full of life-changing meaning you’ve ever had? How do you tell the difference?

One of the best and most important things to consider when interpreting a dream is how did you feel when you woke up? If the dream was stressful and anxious but you woke up relieved to wake up and realize that it was just a dream, then it was probably just a stress dream.

Think about what was stressing you out in the dream and how that may play out in waking life– if at all. How can you handle it in a way that eases the stress?

However.

If you wake up from a stressful and anxious dream and you are still stressful and anxious then, if it were my dream, I would listen up. That dream is warning you about something. That dream wants you to take action to avoid or prevent whatever it was that was making you stressed out and anxious. Do not ignore this warning!

Likewise, if you wake up from a dream that was relaxed and calm, and you still feel relaxed and calm, wonderful. Try to bring in an activity, element or other aspect of that dream into your waking life to help keep that calm feeling going.

Paying attention to how you feel when you wake up is a huge indicator of what you should do with the dream. You’ll know by how you feel what you should do. Should you call someone and warn them about something you saw in your dream? When in doubt, I believe that yes, you should. But if you’re on the fence, let your feelings help you decide.

My most frequent stress dream involves me being really mad at my husband, usually for paying too much (inappropriate) attention to another woman. I always wake from these dreams relieved that it was just a dream and eager to tell him the hysterical lengths to which he drove me mad with jealousy and anger. I know that these dreams are just stress/insecurity dreams and not warning me about infidelity on the part of my husband. I know this because 1) he’s the most loyal guy you ever met and 2) because of how relieved I feel when I realize I’ve been dreaming. When I reflect back on the dream I can easily identify that the dream was fueled by insecurity and his motives for straying are always because I wasn’t giving him enough attention. These dreams ARE NOT warning me that my husband is about to stray but they are pointing to a sense of guilt and/or insecurity I have about often putting him last in the long list of things I have to give my attention to on a daily basis. I know this because of the dynamics of our relationship and because of how I feel both inside the dream and outside the dream when I wake up. The same dream may mean that yes, your spouse is straying, to another person in a different dynamic. But you won’t know the motives behind the dream until you pay attention to how you feel when you wake up.

Homework:

Tomorrow morning, try to spend an extra minute in bed sitting still with your emotions. This is a great meditative “Be Here Now” type of practice on its own and all the more powerful when you apply it to your dreams. Identify how you feel and then try to relate that feeling to the last dream you had before waking up. What are the correlations? How should you act on the dream in light of your feelings? Don’t forget to tell us in the comments!


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How Will You Answer The Winds of Change? (Don’t do what I did)

How Will You Answer The Winds of Change? (Don’t do what I did)

Have you ever been in a situation in your life where you just wish you could fast forward to that point in the future where everything is okay again? A point where the bills are paid, your heart is no longer broken, they’ve recovered from their serious illness or you’ve learned to live with the grief?

I was at that point in 2008 when I knew my marriage needed to end. When I knew we would only ever hold one another back, no matter how much love held us together.

It was frightening. Slam the door on that part of your mind and barricade your heart kind of frightening. Stare at the wall wishing it away kind of frightening.

The real knife twist to my heart was that I was the only one who knew our marriage was doomed. He was blissfully unaware. His life was perfect: He was about to graduate summa cum laude from the highest ranked chiropractic school in the U.S. He, who graduated from the worst ranked public high school in his hometown, was about to become a doctor.  On top of that, he had just accepted a job at a very busy chiropractic clinic in Madrid, Spain.

And as he stood at the podium on graduation day, asking me stand up so he could publicly thank me for my support, the knife twisted itself into my gut another inch. In that moment I knew two things: I loved him terribly and I had to let him go.

I also knew that the only way to get the knife out of my gut . . .

was to sink it into his heart.

But people live for years in a marriage they’ve outgrown, don’t they? I mean, we loved each other. We even liked each other.

What the hell was wrong with me?

I’ll tell you what was wrong with me: my intuition.

My bloody, pain-in-the-ass, womanly instinct. I couldn’t tell you why our relationship was all wrong but I sure as hell could feel it.

And after a few months of living in denial, my body started to show it.

I had developed horrible, painful, embarrassing cystic acne.

There was something festering beneath the surface

and I needed to let it out.

One morning I woke up with a terrible, itchy, red rash all over my neck. It was gross and it was inexplicable . . . except my intuition knew exactly what it was:

I needed to say something that I wasn’t saying.

STILL in denial, I went to a curandera healer. I went to a shaman. I called a psychic. All asked me annoying questions like “What are you not letting out?”

I have never wished to fast forward through life, to get to that place where everything is okay again, more than I did at that time.

If only someone could swoop down and fetch me– fly me off to this future land where everything is okay and then show me exactly how to get there.

Ah. But therein lies the problem: Someone had swooped down and whisked me off to a future land. Someone had shown me how to get there.

That someone? Me.

My dream self had been showing me repeatedly, in fact, how and why I needed to end this relationship. My dream self went out of her way to show me glimpses of the future land where everything was okay again.

But I hadn’t wanted to listen. It was all too big. Too powerful. I wasn’t sure what frightened me more: the prospect of leaving my marriage or the prospect of entering into a new marriage. A marriage between myself and my intuition. A marriage in which I would surrender my life to the power of dreams and intuition.

A marriage in which they would teach me how to

let them surrender to me.

You see, divining answers, truths and Mysteries is as part of our human experience as is breathing. In fact, it’s a large part of our purpose here on Earth. It’s what I was doing when I consulted the curandera healer, the shaman and the psychic. It’s what I was doing when I tuned into my body to find out why it was erupting so violently. It’s what I wasn’t doing when I ignored my dreams.

Dreaming is divination.

Today, I am in that place where everything is okay again. And you know what? So is he.

I chose to follow my dreams– my actual, nighttime dreams (which, surprise! has also led me to my metaphorical dreams). I entered into a new kind of relationship with my dreams and my intuition– a more serious one– and we’ve been making beautiful music ever since.

The latest song we’ve been singing has been to the tune of The DIVINA School of Dreams and Divination.

Learn from my mistakes. The next time the Winds of Change come a knockin’, don’t leave your dreams and intuition out in the cold. In fact, open the door to Change, fully dressed and in control. In time, you may even learn how to knock on the door of Change. And when you do?

Tell him I sent you.

 

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Dreaming the Future: When and How

Dreaming the Future: When and How

I was in that space between being asleep and waking up. I could sense the early morning sunlight pouring in through my windows. With my eyes closed, I reached out to Andy with my mind, trying to sense whether he was still in bed or had already gotten up– he was still in bed and still sleeping.

And then I heard it.

Clunk.

What was that noise! I stubbornly did not want to wake up but I was also curious, so I lay in bed, half asleep, eyes still closed, listening for the sound to see if it would repeat itself.

Clunk.

I reached out with my mind for Andy again. Nope, still in bed, still asleep. I could almost place the sound, but not quite.

Clunk.

I heard Cuen, our 3.5 year old, enter the room. The noise was definitely in the room and near the bed, so it hadn’t been Cuen making the noise. As Cuen got in bed with us, Andy and I began to stir. Andy got out of bed and I closed my eyes.

Clunk!

“What is that noise!” I asked, exasperated. I turned towards Andy and opened my eyes. He looked at me strangely and picked up his water glass and set it back down.

Clunk!

“That noise? I just took a sip of water.”

“Is that your first sip this morning?”

” . . . yeeees. I just woke up.”

I sat up, eyes wide. “I was just dreaming the future!”

Dreaming the Future

I was naturally really excited to realize I was dreaming the future and also perplexed as to why I repeatedly dreamt such a mundane moment in my near future. I’ve been thinking about it and this is what I’ve come up with:

1. I was in the perfect state

As I said, I was in the liminal state, a powerful dreaming state. This state, whether it’s between being awake and falling asleep at night or between being asleep and waking up in the morning, is perfect for BIG dreams, lucid dreams. In this state your brain is asleep enough to surrender to a dream but awake enough to be lucid and aware and more likely to remember this dream. God, Guides and Goddesses know that this is prime time to send you a big dream. You have one foot in each world, so-to-speak.

2. I reached out

A key to dreaming the future was sending my mind out in search of Andy, I’m sure of it. I don’t really know how to teach you to do this, but you can try it and practice it. You’ll know you’ve done it when you’ve done it. Just close your eyes and reach out for someone with your mind. First try with someone physically close by– in the same room or the same house. Any mamas reading this will probably know this sensation right away. I reach out my psychic feelers all the time to see where my kids are and if I should go to them.

When I reached out for Andy I think I also unwittingly reached out into the future, if.only two or three minutes into the future.

3. It was a teaching moment

I have a longstanding prayer request to the Powers That Be to show me what is possible through dreaming. Make me a vessel, show me how to teach people to dream. I think, then, that this dream also happened to remind me that WE can dream the future. It can happen spontaneously and we can also practice and seek it.

After you’ve gotten the hang of psychically reaching out to people (and I recommend only doing this with close family members unless you know how to protect yourself against psychic vampires), try reaching out to the future. Reach out to the morning, the afternoon. Take note of what you see and compare it against what actually happens that day.

You know those dreams when you wake up and get ready for work and then you really wake up and realize you dreamt the whole thing and now you’re 20 minutes late? That’s a version of dreaming the future too.  If you spill your coffee in that dream, or walk outside and see a flat tire, it’s not a bad idea to be careful with the coffee and to check the air levels of your tires before heading off to work.

Have you ever dreamed the future? Tell me about it in the comments!

 

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Gumdrops & Birthday Cake: A Cookie Recipe

Gumdrops & Birthday Cake: A Cookie Recipe

I recently woke from a strange dream with a strange cookie recipe. In the dream, I was the follow-up act to Martha Stewart (like she’d let anyone be her follow-up act). She was teaching a workshop on making and decorating birthday cakes for kids and I was showing everyone how to use leftover birthday cake creatively. She made a beautiful little ladybug cake with red sparkle sprinkles and I put my hands right into that baby, like it was my first birthday and everyone was chanting for the cake shot. And then I squeezed and I crumbled and I tore that cake down. Martha stood in the back of the room beaming proudly.

I woke up and thought two things: 1) Yeah rightand 2) I should actually do that.

Make the cookies, not destroy a Martha Stewart bi

rthday cake.

The cookie recipe was indeed strange, as only a cookie recipe from a dream can be.

The stranger ingredients and flavor combinations in the cookie recipe included:

  • lemon-white chocolate chips
  • orange zest
  • cinnamon
  • leftover birthday cake
  • gumdrops

If you know anything about me yet you’ll know that 1) I take my dreams seriously (so they, in turn, will take me seriously) and 2) I act on my dreams whenever possible.

So, I made the cookies– which was a big investment because white chocolate chips are as pricey as contraband down here. But in the name of honoring my dream and in the name of science, I sold my remaining kidney, said “what the hell,” and bought the damn chips.

I came home and made the cookies. As they baked, I sat wondering how to tell Andy I had sold a kidney to pay for the cookies that I was feeding to the chickens– that is if he caught me feeding them to the chickens. If they were really bad hopefully I could feed the chickens and air out the kitchen before he came home for lunch.

But I needn’t have worried.

The cookies were delicious.

And yes, I’m going to share the recipe with you today; but first let’s talk about how I sourced some of the stranger ingredients.

Lemon-White Chocolate Chips

I don’t think lemon-white chocolate chips exist (they should) so I bought regular white chocolate chips (and you know at what cost) and I then worked lemon juice into the recipe. Apparently lemon juice in cookies is a thing.

Leftover Birthday Cake

I bought two large chocolate muffins at the bakery to sub for the birthday cake (which was a chocolate cake in my dream) because I didn’t want to make an entire cake to try this recipe. The muffins/cake add a really nice texture to the cookies! In the future, however, I think homemade birthday cake would in fact be better as my cookies have a slighty processed taste from the store-bought muffins.

Gumdrops

As for the gumdrops, I immediately thought of the Higos Azucarados (sugared figs) that you can buy just about anywhere here in Costa Rica. Their look and texture is exactly like a gumdrop (and I’m sure gumdrops were created to imitate sugared/candied fruit). Sugared plums or candied ginger would likely work equally as well. I couldn’t find any sugared figs on Amazon but you can easily make your own with figs, sugar and water. Of course, feel free to use actual gumdrops if you must 😉

Ok, now to end the suspense! I think this cook

ie recipe really is a brilliant way to use leftover cake, especially if it’s becoming dry.


Dream Cookies

  • 2 1/4 c. flour (I use a gluten-free combo of 1/4 c. coconut flour, 1 c. almond flour and 1 c. oat flour, but use any flours you like)
  • 1/4 tsp salt
  • 1 1/2 tsp baking soda
  • 1 tsp cinnamon
  • 12 tbsp butter (1 1/2 sticks), melted and cooled
  • 2/3 c. sugar
  • 2 eggs
  • 1 tsp vanilla extract
  • 4 tsp lemon juice
  • Zest of one small orange (about a tablespoon)
  • 2-3 slices of leftover birthday cake, any flavor, or two large muffins
  • 1-2 tbsp milk (optional)
  • 6 sugared (candied) figs, diced ( about 1 c.)
  • 1/2 c. white chocolate chips

Preheat oven to 350 degrees F and line a cookie sheet with parchment paper.

Melt the butter in a small saucepan and set aside to cool.

In a small bowl mix flour, salt, baking soda and cinnamon together. Set aside.

In a medium bowl or in a standing mixer, cream butter and sugar until well blended. Add the eggs, one at a time, beating well. Add vanilla, lemon juice and orange zest, mix well.

Add the flour mixture to the butter and sugar mixture. Mix until well blended. In the small bowl you used for the flour, crumble the birthday cake with you hands. Add the crumbled cake to your cookie dough, mixing well. Add milk, 1 tablespoon at a time, if cookie dough is too dry (I didn’t need to do this). Fold in sugared figs and white chocolate chips.

Using your hands, make small cookie dough ball, about 1 inch in diameter and place on the cookie sheet, 2 inches apart.

Bake for 12-15 minutes until done and let the cookies rest on the cookie sheet for 5 minutes before removing.

Yields 24 cookies.


Enjoy and do let me know if you make these cookies!  Have you ever had any strange recipes given to you in a dream?

 

Milk & Cookies,

 

Dreaming With The Dead: How To Contact a Departed Loved One through Dreams

Dreaming With The Dead: How To Contact a Departed Loved One through Dreams

Although I dream vividly and often, I don’t get many nighttime visitations from those who have gone before me. And I’m okay with that. However, when I’m very stressed or on the brink of a major life shift/change, I find myself reaching out to my paternal grandparents subconsciously.

It goes like this:

I find myself outside their home, a home I knew very well as a child. It’s dark and cold, as if we were on the cusp of the first snow of the season. I often feel relieved, as if a long journey has been successful and is, finally, over. There are lights on inside and a promise of many levels of warmth.

I find myself inside and see my grandparents, sitting in their reclining chairs opposite one another, just like they did in life. They turn to greet me, happy and welcoming as if I really did just complete a long journey to come home. I walk over to them, relief already softening my body, and sit down on the floor between them. And then I start talking. I start telling them about everything in my life, what’s going great, what’s bothering me, and where my aim is at the moment. They listen and smile and when I’m done they open their mouths to give me advice.

And this is where, every time, my consciousness backs away from the dream. Fade to black. I feel my awareness zoom backwards out of the room, leaving my subconscious self alone with her grandparents, their ancestral love and their wisdom.

I wake up from these dreams feeling less burdened and with a peace that reminds me everything is going to be alright. I’ve never felt the need to know or remember what advice my grandparents have given me. Instead, I know the very act of reaching out to them, and being received by them in turn, is a potent medicine in and of itself.

I’ve had this dream probably half a dozen times in my adult life. They usually come unbidden, as a natural reflex to impending change and the stress that accompanies it, but I’ve also learned how to have this dream on-demand.

Dreaming with a Departed Loved One

There are many reasons to contact a departed loved one through dreaming. You may need to offer or ask for forgiveness, tell them how much you love them, confirm that they are okay, ask their advice, tie up loose ends or even ask where the damn key to the file cabinet is. In turn, your departed loved one may have just as much reason, and urgency, to contact you.

The dreamspace is a great place to make this contact. A sort of no-man’s land, dreamspace is equally accessible by the living and the dead alike. In fact, it is probably a lot easier for your departed loved one to gather the energy to appear in your dream than it is for them to gather the energy to tip over a vase or make the radio go haywire to get your attention.

Yes, these dreams can happen spontaneously, and are a great gift when they do, but there are also things you can do to give the dreams a little more oomph and to alert your departed loved one that you’d like to make contact:

  • If you haven’t already, create a small altar or shrine for your loved one. Put their picture there along with a few of their favorite earthly possessions and/or foods. Spend a few minutes looking at the photo and remembering them, sending them your love, everyday.
  • Throughout the day, talk to you loved one in your head. The conversation can come and go– pick it up whenever you’re aware that you have a few moments to do so– like a long continuous prayer. Sending them love and thought energy serves to alert them to your desire to communicate as well as lends them a little extra energy that they can follow to you.
  • Before bed, create a small evening ritual with a bath/shower, essential oils, candlelight and soothing music. This ritual can look however you’d like it to, but try to engage all of your senses through a sense of calm. Hold your intention and desire to communicate with your loved one while you perform your ritual(s).
  • It may help immensely to write down your intent on a notepad next to your bed. The notepad will also serve to write down the dream, even in the middle of the night, when you wake up from it. “I intend to communicate with Grandma tonight to ask her about ________” Or, “Dear Grandma, I could really use your help right now and would love to meet you in the dreamspace tonight” are examples of intentions.

Repeat these steps everyday until you’ve had your dream. You may get lucky and have success on your first day. More likely, it will take you (and your loved one) several days to find each other in the dreamspace. Expect to give this exercise at least 3 days and as many as 10. If after two weeks you still have not had contact, I would consider trying a different ancestor or searching yourself to see if you have received your answer subconsciously.

What to do with Your Dream

After you’ve had your dream, give thanks to your loved one and send them love– this sort of energy nourishes spirits. Besides, you don’t know what effort or lengths they went to to show up for your dream, so if you ever hope to dream with them again, you’d better show your appreciation.

Some other things to do with the dream:

  • Write it down– whatever you can remember from it. A snatch, a book. A sentence. Write it down to honor it.
  • Act on the dream. You’ll know what to do.
  • Was there something your loved one asked you to do for them? Do it.
  • If they didn’t explicitly ask you to do something for them, is there something you can do anyway? Share the dream with someone else they love. Go for a walk through their favorite place in nature, in their honor. Clean their grave site and leave their favorite flowers.

Have you had a dream visit from a departed loved one? I’d love to hear about it in the comments!

In all things, cherish the dream.

 


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The 8 Categories of Dreams

The 8 Categories of Dreams

As I mentioned in last week’s post, I’m doing some one-on-one work with Mary Shutan and it’s been a really great experience. (I’ll be sharing some of what I’ve learned soon!) I first came to Mary for help in figuring out a series of reoccurring dreams I’ve been having– even the dream expert needs help sometimes– and one of the first things we went over were the various different kinds of dreams there are. I realized I have kind of taken for granted the knowledge that there are different types of dreams, each with it’s own reason, and thought I’d go over these dream categories for you so you have the reference for your own knowledge about dreams.

Dreams really fall on a spectrum rather than have set, black and white, categories. However, there are 8 major dream themes, as I see it, and any one dream could overlap into several or all of these categories. However, you may find these categorizations useful:

1. Stress Relief/ Day-In-Review Dreams

These dreams relive the day and fulfill stress relief fantasies such as saying what you really wanted to say to the jerk on the corner or having the right answer at the right time during a stressful meeting at work.

2. Mundane Day-In-The-Life/Precognitive Dreams

In your dream, you wake up and get ready for work, get in the car and start driving. Soon you’re in a traffic jam and can feel stress and regret mounting as you should have taken Exit Such-and-Such like you almost did but instead you ignored the feeling and ended up here. You wake yourself up.

Unlike the Day-In-Review dreams listed above, this dream is highly likely a precognitive dream warning you of this very situation. It’s underscoring the feeling of exiting early and taking a different route to work. The trick is to remember the dream and act on it when the situation presents itself in your waking life. If you’re wondering if your “mundane” dream is a precognitive dream, just ask yourself upon waking if this situation could play out in real life. If the answer is yes, well– take the early Exit.

3. Past Life Dreams

I once dreamt that I was watching something like a marriage ceremony in an ancient Mayan community. A young girl was being wedded to a much older man and I looked down at my twin girls in my arms and felt a profound sadness for the young bride and for my own two girls should they have the same fate. I also took note of my unusual rough dress with odd blue designs woven along the hem. Then I woke up.

Because this dream was brief and actually highly detailed I believe it was a past life dream. These dreams may feel like memory or have a feeling of remembering. They are also often mundane save for the fact that you are in a different time period and dressed differently. You may or may not be aware of this time hop. I have no idea if the ancient Mayans had wedding ceremonies, but something of the sort was happening– binding this young girl (12 years old at most) to this much older man (50+) and I felt sad for the end of her childhood.

4. Initiation/Teaching Dreams

Like the Tarot Workshop dream I recount in Oracle, there are dreams that are obviously teaching you something you need to know and/or initiating you into a new area of knowledge. You’ll know these dreams when you have them!

5. Astral Travel Dreams

These dreams take you to other dimensions for exploration or learning and are also very obvious to categorize when you wake. See my post on Dream Stories: Rocketing (and Panicking) Through The Cosmos With Two Orbs of Light

6. Reunion with Deceased Loved Ones Dreams

You’ve sat at you’re grandfather’s feet all evening listening to his wisdom even though you don’t remember any of it upon waking. You were in a nondescript white room catching up with your deceased cousin and you woke up with a message for his mother. You bet your bottom dollar you had a true encounter with these loved ones on the other side.

7. Healing Dreams

You’ve dreamt about a person you don’t get along with and the dream showed you a different way of looking at them– your heart has softened and the conflict can ease. You’ve dreamt about an herb to take to soothe your rough cough. You’ve dreamt about a body part where you’ve experienced trauma and that body part has talked to you, explained things to you, and these new realizations can help you let go of the wounded energy and being to heal.

Freaking love these dreams.

8. Nightmares

Nightmares are usually scary so that 1) you’ll pay attention and 2) you won’t forget. Nightmares are rarely scary for the sake of scaring you. If you have a nightmare, ask yourself what it could be trying to tell you or work up the gumption to face the monster (either lucidly in the dream or be reentering the dream) and ask it just what it’s there for. I’ll be teaching you how to work with nightmares more in-depth soon.

How about you? Any categories to add?

 


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