My Vision

My Vision

As I’m working on the launch of my new website, I’ve been thinking about my vision for my business and the world . . . a lot. Please note that you do not have to agree with me to be in this space. And I’m not interested in trying to get you to see things the way I do. However, I believe it’s important, for you and for me, to be transparent about what motivates my work.

14 things I’d like to see happen and that I want this space to stand for:

  1. I want to see an end to spiritual bypassing and light-washing and to see spiritual entrepreneurs step into true leadership by spearheading tough conversations– not just prescribing a full moon ritual to “let it all go.”
  2. I want to see ancestral healing become part of the spiritual mainstream– we can help heal many of the modern world maladies by addressing their root causes, which often began taking form in the lives of our recent and distant ancestors. I believe that until we address the ancestral beliefs and behaviors that began to form a certain modern malady (white supremacy, racism, hoarding of resources, pollution, disconnection from nature, etc.) we can’t effectively open or hold the space to address and change these behaviors in the present.
  3. I want to see people thoughtfully and purposefully connect with their ancestral lineage as a source of spiritual power and knowledge.
  4. I want to see people, especially white people, STOP culturally appropriating certain spiritual traditions.
  5. I want to see people who are called to a spiritual tradition that does not belong to them ancestrally to first: heal their ancestral lineage and receive a blessing from their ancestors to pursue said outside spiritual tradition. Second: to do due diligence and fully comprehend the grievances their ancestral lineage may have imparted on their chosen/adopted cultural and spiritual tradition. And third: To make appropriate and sincere reparations. What this might look like: If you are a white woman who has mostly a British Isles lineage and you feel especially attracted to Hinduism, you might first connect with your own rich lineage for suggestions on spiritual practices and/or to receive a blessing to pursue Hinduism (you do NOT want to piss off or neglect your ancestors here). Then, dive deep into the cultural and religious history of Hinduism, including how the colonization of India by the British has impacted the past and present world of Hinduism. Finally, find a meaningful cause and donate time and/or money to it in the name of ancestral reparation. Do this annually. Repeatedly show up to help support the world of Hinduism, not to just take the pretty and sparkly things. Likewise, if you are a woman of color and a devout Catholic (for example) do due diligence and understand the grievances and crusades the Church has imparted on your lineage. Seek to understand and heal what you can. Don’t just blindly follow.
  6. I want the voices of people of color and those across the gender spectrum uplifted and honored, especially in conversations around spiritual healing and well being.
  7. I want to see all of us tap into the blessings of our lineage to help direct our life and our missions.
  8. I want to see a world where food and physical health are no longer separated from the world of spirituality. Food is a spiritual gateway. You can’t track or count your way through it.
  9. I want a world where spiritual carnivores aren’t demonized. There’s room at the table. Veganism is no synonymous with #crueltyfree but it might be synonymous with a disconnect with the circle of life and right relationship with death– just as cruel animal harvesting techniques is.
  10. I want women to embrace the story and role food has played out in their lineage– with a 21st century feminist angle.
  11. I want higher spiritual standards for all of us. Don’t just follow someone because they make you feel light and pretty and entertained with fluffy rituals. Find at least one spiritual teacher who pushes you to learn and do more with your spirituality.
  12. I want it to become standard practice for spiritual leaders to list out the educations, people and experiences who have influenced their path and their practice.
  13. I want spiritual entrepreneurs to examine their offerings and coaching packages for subtle or overt expressions of oppression, the white gaze, the male gaze or other practices of homogenization and indoctrination. ESPECIALLY in the areas of health, spirituality and in creating a “success”-orientated mindset.
  14. I want spiritual seekers to examine the courses and coaching packages they are considering purchasing for subtle or overt expressions of oppression, the white gaze, the male gaze or other practices of homogenization and indoctrination. ESPECIALLY in the areas of health, spirituality and in creating a “success”-orientated mindset.
22 Things To Send Instead Of “Thoughts And Prayers”

22 Things To Send Instead Of “Thoughts And Prayers”

And we had such high hopes for 2017.

Trump is still president. Charlottesville. Texas. Florida. Puerto Rico. Hundreds of thousands of acres burned by wildfires. And now. Las Vegas.

Whenever tragedy or misfortune strikes, whether it’s on a global, national or personal scale, the immediate thought is to send “thoughts and prayers” or “love and light.”

But that’s not enough. Thoughts and prayers are not going to bring back the Las Vegas shooting victims. Love and light is not going to create change in outdated policies.

Well, the truth is, I believe love and light and thoughts and prayers COULD create the change we want to see in the world IF we all really stopped what we are doing and sent the loving and healing energy we say we’re going to send– and IF we all did it on an intense and synchronized daily basis. But we don’t. We send a few heartbeats of love, shed a few tears, donate a few dollars and go on with out lives until the next tragedy happens.

And it’s understandable. We don’t know what else to do. Often, we’re restricted by geography or resources to do much else than that anyway. Appropriate and effective action isn’t always so clear. “Love and light” isn’t always appropriate. We can’t white-light pain and trauma away. What’s more, sending love and light to someone’s pain and trauma can also be indicative of our pain and trauma-free privilege; just like someone may use their privilege to gloss over racial issues by claiming to be “color-blind.” Color-blindness is a choice. A very privileged choice. Sending love and light is also a privileged choice.


Because pain and trauma don’t need the light. They need to be held in the sacred darkness. They need to be processed in the dark void. They need to be sat with, peered into and integrated to be truly healed. If you breach that process with love and light, you’ve put a band-aid over a bullet wound.

Okay, maybe I’ve starting to stretch this metaphor a little thin. Let’s get to the point: So what can we do instead of sending love and light, thoughts and prayers? What can we do in addition to sending loving energy that will be supportive and possibly change-making?

Well I’m glad you asked. Below is a list of things to do when tragedy strikes on the personal, national or global level. It’s not an exhaustive list but it’s actionable.

Personal Tragedy

When a close friend or family member has experienced something painful you can:

  1. Sit with them and witness their pain. Don’t say anything. Don’t try to comfort them. Perhaps refrain from touching them too (better to ask them). Just sit there and let them weep or rage. They need to know that it’s okay to experience these emotions. That the world will not end and they will not die if they experience their emotions. That they will heal faster if they experience their emotions. Sit there with them and witness. Hold this most sacred of spaces.
  2. Ask if you can donate some time or money. Donate a house cleaning service or roll up your sleeves and do it for them yourself. Organize other friends or family members to support the person with food or food services.
  3. Send a handwritten letter or card. Remember how people used to do that? If someone has died, write a happy memory of that person in the card or letter. Even better? Put the one year anniversary of that person’s death in your calendar and endeavor to send a second card or letter to acknowledge and support this important anniversary.
  4. Send a thoughtful and appropriate gift. Mourning jewelry is a thing. A beautiful thing. Commission an art piece via an artist on Etsy. Seek out a grief counselor or death midwife and ask them to help you support your friend or family member. There are also trauma midwives out there on the beautiful world wide web. Pottery is an ancient and appropriate gift: a vase, a plate.
  5. Commit to praying for the person every day for a set amount of days. A week, a lunar cycle . . . whatever feel appropriate. Then do it, everyday. Try to do it at the same time every day and for the same length of time to build energy.
  6. Commit to lighting a tea candle for the person every day. Light the candle and spend a few moments in prayer. Let the candle burn itself out and repeat for a set number of days.

National Tragedy

When something happens in your country, like a mass shooting, and although you’re not directly affected, you’d like to help:

  1. Donate blood.
  2. Donate money.
  3. Donate supplies (clothes, bottled water, blankets) to your local Red Cross– even if those supplies don’t directly go to the tragedy, you’re still contributing and helping.
  4. Donate to your local volunteer ambulance. My mom started and is the chief of the volunteer ambulance service in the little community where I grew up. Money, blankets, teddy bears for children– it all is needed and invaluable.
  5. Donate tampons and diapers! These items are not provided by government-funded relief programs.
  6. Call your elected officials! It is their job to hear from you and represent your concerns and desires. This article has everything you need to know about contacting your officials, including phone and letter scripts.
  7. Get to know the legislative process. Understanding what your Senators and Representatives have to do, and how, empowers you as constituent. As a teenager, I spent a few weeks working in my state capitol as a page for my senator. I spent another couple of weeks interning in Washington D.C. as part of a leadership program. If your knowledge of the legislative branch is rusty, re-educate yourself. If you have a teenager, seek out your state’s page program and encourage them to become involved. It doesn’t mean they have to commit to a life of politics, but it will empower them for their life.  Learn about the legislative process here.
    Contact your local senator’s office to learn about becoming a page.
  8. Again, commit to praying and/or lighting a candle every day for a set number of days. Consider organizing a prayer circle with your friends, community or facebook group and make a set time to meet or pray at the same time.

Global Tragedy

When something happens in another country and you’d like to help (most of these suggestions can also be applied to national tragedies):

  1. Donate to the International Committee of the Red Cross
  2. Research newspapers articles that are local to the event and see which organizations they are recommending people donate too.
  3. Take a moment of silence or a moment of darkness to honor the victims.
  4. Again, donate tampons and diapers. Baby blankets and baby carriers are also sorely needed after large scale disasters or misplacements.
  5. Pray for the souls of the dead who are likely shocked and in denial that they are dead. Ask Archangel Michael to help guide them to cross over.
  6. Make a donation to a local-to-the-event women’s shelter. Consider matching that donation to a local-to-you women’s shelter as well.
  7. Contact a local-to-the-event flower shop and have flowers sent to the street memorial that has likely popped up. It’s a more tangible way of sending “love and light” and is likely to make an impression on the florist, who may want to match your kindness or spread the story, which spreads hope and unity. Plus, flowers bring earth energy and magic to the scene, which help us digest and process the intense and heavy emotions that come with a tragic event. Politely ask the florist to send you a photo of your donation at the shrine if you’d like.
  8. Organize a local vigil with your community. Light candles and hold space to honor the victims and their families. This is a more powerful and actionable way to send “thoughts and prayers.” Contact your local newspaper for coverage. Getting coverage will help spread the idea of taking action and participating in the solution. Go to your local newspaper’s website and look through the list of journalists until you find the one that covers local events and/or is a “General” reporter. Tell them what you’re doing, when and why and invite them to come.
Keep It Sacred: Keep It Private

Keep It Sacred: Keep It Private

Here’s the deal: when you post something that is full of your own conscious choices, hopes, desires and wishes, it becomes vulnerable to everyone else’s conscious and unconscious hopes, desires and judgments.

That means, if you’ve just put hours of effort and intention into something like a vision board or an altar, and then post it on social media for all 1,300 of your followers, known and unknown, to look at, your vision board or altar just got messed with.

Keep It Sacred: Keep It Private.

This also goes for sacred space you just set up for meditation or for client work. It goes for sacred tools you’ve created. It goes for any mundane object, say a job application, that you have a lot of energy and emotion behind.

And it also can apply to your body.

I’m all for the sentiment and sense of injustice behind the “Free The Nipple!” campaign, but you won’t catch me freeing mine. Not in public.

Breasts in particular are a very sensitive and very powerful part of a woman’s body. It’s an area of the body where we physically and energetically give and receive, not to mention it’s also our heart area. We often feel embarrassment at the thought of accidentally being caught naked or topless in front of someone, not because we’re afraid of our bodies being judged (though the patriarchy has made us believe that and has also shamed us for that fear) but because we innately are aware that our bodies really are our temples and our power, our juju, our feminine mojo is vulnerable to outside hopes, desires and judgments.

You’ll know your body energy has been compromised, whether you had an audience of one or took part in an impromptu skinny dipping sesh at a festival, if you find yourself suddenly and uncharacteristically concerned with what others are thinking and feeling about you. If you find yourself seeking outside validation or acceptance more than is healthy. If you feel inexplicably “addicted” to outside praise or just as inexplicably shy, anxious and obsessed about avoiding outside thoughts and opinions.

These symptoms of energetic compromise can occur anytime we’ve been vulnerable, not just naked.

What To Do If Sacred Space Is Compromised

You can smudge anything, including your body, with Palo Santo to clear away unwanted emotions and energies. Be careful about doing this to sacred objects if you don’t really need to– you could clear away some of the energy you’ve intentionally built over time. Being clear on how you want the Palo Santo to work is key: Clear away any emotions or energies that do not belong or do not serve the higher purpose of this object— is an example. I don’t recommend sage because it’s actually a consecrating herb, not a cleansing one. Palo Santo will cleanse and then you can come behind with some sage to consecrate if you’d like.

You can also take a shower and intend/pray that the water also washes away those thoughts, emotions and energies that are not yours or are no longer serving you.

If you enjoy being naked or otherwise vulnerable around folks, no worries. You’ve got a natural shield put up, the people you choose to be naked or vulnerable around are energetic rock stars, or you can take a cleansing and intentional shower afterwards to cover your bASSES. (I crack myself up).

In love and sacred darkness,


What Blessings Are You “Getting Away With”?

What Blessings Are You “Getting Away With”?

I’ve just returned from 6 weeks in my homelands in Washington State. It was the first time I’ve seen my family in 21 months and I experienced a range of emotions while I was there. I was also struggling with guilt at having moved so far away and with a deep, grievous homesickness.

I’ve kept the homesickness at bay for years, but this trip home opened the flood gates. Part of my spiritual growth has included working with my ancestors and I think that accounted for some of my weepiness: My home is also the home of my ancestors– 40,000 years worth of ancestors. Give or take a millennium.

When we flew back to Costa Rica last week, I was a mess. It had never been so hard for me to leave home. Growing up, I was the kid who wanted to learn her tribal language. I dreamt of being an activist within the community. I wanted to go to ceremonies, participate in them and even lead them. But I was also the kid who wanted to travel far far away. I wanted to explore other worlds and cultures. First, I moved two hours away to get a bachelor degree. Then, I moved across the U.S. and to Spain, following my first husband. Then I moved to the Southwest for a master’s degree. With my master’s degree in hand I thought finally I can go home and learn the language. Participate in ceremony . . . and then I met Andy and found myself committed to him, our children and his (our) farm in Costa Rica . . . for life.

Last week, July 13th, was also my birthday and I always try a new sort of reading or healing technique for my birthday. This year, at the behest of my friend Lis from Little Fox Tarot, I booked an Ancestral Reading from Andrew with The Hermit’s Lamp (love that name). In the session, I bumbled and cried and snorted while he listened and interjected messages from the Ancestors as well as a bit of life coaching. One of the things Andrew pointed out was that I kept using the phrase “I feel so lucky to be here but . . .” He asked me to go deeper into why I felt lucky and I bumbled around a bit before he added his two cents (paraphrased of course):

“Why do you think you and Andy are together? Why do you think you have a magical story? The ancestors brought you together. We’re talking hundreds of years of scheming and planning. Your ancestors want you in Costa Rica. Your ancestors want you in your homelands. This IS the plan. You talk as if you’re getting away with something, as if you don’t deserve your magical life, but you worked harder than anyone. You listened.”

And whoosh. Everything came into place. I did listen. I listened to my soul and to my dreams when they told me to leave my first marriage. I listened to my heart and the synchronicities when they led me to Costa Rica for the first time. I listened when my gut told me to trust the stranger who wanted to pick me up at the airport and I listened when the souls of my children came through in a dream and announced the adventure we’d be having together. (you can read my multi-part series on this divorce-love-babies-divine-intervention story beginning here)

I super listened. With all of my senses.

I’m not getting away with anything. I haven’t gotten more than I deserve. These are the blessings (and hardships) of this lifetime. And I know, without a doubt, that if I had not listened, I’d be in some city somewhere, aching for a life in another world.

I’m still listening.

Now, I’m curious to know: what blessings are you “getting away with” ? How have you listened to divine guidance through life changes?

In love and sacred darkness,


Eating Meat as Spiritual Practice (The Benefits of)

Eating Meat as Spiritual Practice (The Benefits of)

*Deep Breath* I have fought against myself for months about writing about this topic. I know I am opening a whole can of worms here, but the signs and feelings are clear– I need to write about it. This article is for you omnivores out there who choose to eat meat and, fuck, even enjoy it. This article is for you vegans and vegetarians out there who want to understand a bit more about how people can eat animal meat and still follow a spiritual path– and in fact, eating meat can be a spiritual practice.

First let me say that NOT eating meat may be an extremely important part of your spiritual path. It may have become clear to you that you cannot and should not eat meat– for perhaps many reasons. That’s wonderful and valid. BUT. It can also be true that eating meat may be an extremely important part of you spiritual path. At some point on your path you may realize that you can and should eat meat. This is also wonderful and valid.

All that said, there is a persistent belief and practice that highly conscious individuals cannot, should not, or do not eat meat and if you too stop eating meat, you can be more evolved/conscious/awake/compassionate.

Yet again, I’m using this blog to call bullshit.

Particularly, what is driving me to write about this, is I was once at a weekend spiritual retreat that was BYOLunch and I had brought some leftovers that contained meat for my lunch– I actually like to eat meat when I’m doing deep spiritual work, because it grounds me and nourishes me. I might fast or go off of meat for a few days beforehand, but sometimes during– and always after– my body and soul crave some meat to bring me back to earth. More on this in a minute. But the point is, I was at this retreat which was BYOL but there were signs all over the communal kitchen that it was a vegetarian space only. On the one hand, I can respect that. On the other hand, however, I felt shame, embarrassment and exclusion because I hadn’t been made aware of that rule beforehand. Was I such a dunce to even consider that it was an option to bring a meat-based lunch? Did everyone else know something else I didn’t know? Are they sneering behind my back? (they weren’t).

The thing is, rules are an illusion. There is no rule that you must not eat meat if you want to be spiritual. And if you are creating those rules, or creating shame for yourself because you can’t stick to those rules, hear me again: rules are bullshit illusions.

Now, I also know that not eating meat is often a stand against animal cruelty. I fully support this and practice this myself. The meat I eat is not cruelly treated. You might wonder how killing an animal to eat it is anything but cruel, but that’s a very lopsided view of life and death and I’ll explain more about that in a moment. If I somehow do eat inhumanely curated meat, it shows up almost immediately in my body as stress and cystic acne, evidence that it’s not nourishing or grounding.

It is possible to eat meat that is not cruelly sourced. And if you are a meat-eater, I highly encourage you to do this.

I’ve watched all the documentaries. Trust me. I started a pretty damn successful food blog in 2004, I wrote my Master’s thesis on how food creates and sustains cultural identity and legacy, I used to be married to a holistic chiropractor and now I’m married to eco/sustainable/organic farmer and rancher. I’ve read the books. Watched the documentaries. I’ve dabbled in veganism and vegetarianism. I still eat meat. Here’s why:

1. I don’t believe that eating plants is any less violent than eating animals. Everything must die to bring about new life. Just because you can’t hear a plant or see a plant’s facial expressions, doesn’t mean they aren’t animated. I believe there is as much of a soul in a stalk of grass as there is in a cow. In fact, plants suffer a long slow death when picked and packaged and then shipped to grocery stores. I don’t get hung up on this. I just do my best, make the best possible decisions that I can in the moment, and get on with my life because I am at peace with death. I accept that an animal or a plant (or fruit/vegetable) must die so that I can live. I accept that someday I must die so that another generation may live. (please note that I am not making a direct correlation that says not eating meat = being ignorant about death. I’m not. Nor is the reverse inherently true. It just happens to be true for me).

2. From watching all the documentaries and reading all the books, oh and from being married to an ethical rancher, I know that it is possible to get ethically sourced meat and other animal products. Boycotting these products on the whole, vs. supporting the conscious farmers who are trying to make a difference, isn’t going to bring about the change you want to see in the world. People will always eat meat. So let’s boycott the inhumane treatment of animals, yes, but don’t boycott the humane and conscious farmer at the same time. He or She is depending on you.

We have several cows, goats, chickens, ducks and other animals. When a cow reaches old age, we will butcher her. We give her some yummy food, maybe say some kind words or even shed a tear She literally never feels fear or stress or knows that it is coming. It’s not an easy thing, emotionally, for my husband to do it BUT he does it because he believes it is the best thing for the cow. Why? Well aging is hard and painful on cows. They are huge animals with relatively weak and vulnerable legs. And also, when you live on a farm you know that everything must contribute, everything must pull it’s weight. We save the cow from a long and miserable decline into death, she provides nourishment to us. That’s the circle of life folks.

We also keep our calves and cows together for several weeks before weening the calf (and it has to happen at some point, I’ve seen a grown cow WITH HER OWN CALF, still sucking on her mother because she was never weaned. It’s really hard on the mother to have a daughter the same size as her, pushing her around and trying to suck her dry), but we do ween the calf and we do keep milking the cow for ourselves. Why? Well, 85% of that milk is turned into cheese, which we sell at the farmer’s market, which pays for the animal feed/supplements and other necessities. Which makes it so we can actually afford to have cows, which means the cows we have are in a loving environment vs. being born to a stock yard or worse. It’s all part of the economy. You give us milk, we’ll give you everything you need including peace and quiet and beautiful green pastures. Cows (goats either for that matter) do not make great or inexpensive pets. They require maintenance and that requires time and money. To give a cow a good life, we need to get milk from her and, someday, meat. Support your local conscious ranchers!

3. Truth be told, while we are meat eaters, we don’t eat meat all that often. Once every 7-10 days at most and it’s always our own meat that we have processed start to finish ourselves. I recognize that in this manner I have a unique blessing and access to high quality, ethically sourced meat, so I can stand here and say “eating meat is spiritual too.” And it is. But having access to that meat is easier for me than it may be for you. However, if you are a meat eater, please support your local ethical farmer, or become one yourself. If you can’t afford to eat ethical meat, then maybe youyou just eat it once or twice a month. That’s your call and, more importantly, none of my business.

If you are a lifelong vegetarian or a vegan who has changed her life with a vegan lifestyle, congratulations. You are a rare fairy whose body does well without meat. It is a myth that EVERYBODY can do well without meat (I’ve tried). But if your body is giving you clues that it’s time to add a little meat into your diet, please don’t punish your beautiful body by making it adhere to rules that aren’t real. Your life is too precious and valuable. Just eat a local, organic, pasture-raised burger once in awhile if that’s what your body needs. Please?

If you are a vegetarian or a vegan who does not judge or shame those of us who eat meat: THANK YOU. There’s enough out there in the world to create friction and disharmony. I honestly appreciate your efforts to not add to separatism and your maturity to see that two things can be true at once.

But wait. How exactly is eating meat a spiritual practice?

Well, this varies from person to person and season to season. For me, my ancestors love a nice piece of fresh meat as an offering. I’ll cook some up for myself and give some to them on their altar, raw. We partake, commune, together.

Meat is also really grounding and nourishing, energetically, and many of us on a spiritual path need that. Maybe not all the time, but I would say at least once or twice a month is a good idea. The New Age mainstream spirituality loves to focus on the upper chakras, but the truth is, if we are highly activated in the upper chakras but poorly supported in the lower chakras, we can become sick, imbalanced, disassociated, delusional, spacey and inadvertently invite a lot of chaos into our lives. The reverse is also true if we are more activated in our lower chakras than our upper chakras.

We are incarnated on the earth plane, the physical plane. We are meant to have dense, physical bodies. Yes, meat has that dense, lower chakra energy. Many people shun meat BECAUSE of these dense qualities, as if eating enough plants will make them magically float away on cloud and as if that’s actually the point of life on earth. . . WTF? To those people, I question: what pain are they trying to avoid? What are they trying to escape from? What are they trying to not feel? Why do they want so desperately to be made of air and energy rather than flesh and bones. I’m seriously asking. What unresolved issues do they have with death? Dying? Aging?

Is it possible that if you have a unrelenting desire to escape your human condition, to return to source, that you incarnated here on Earth, where we are dense and physical and under the illusion of being separate from source, precisely to work through those escapist desires, not to enable them? I’m not suggesting that eating meat= all your esoteric fears and problems magically disappear. But I AM suggesting that being afraid to eat meat could be a symptom of a larger fear, a fear you’ve incarnated to face.

But, again, consciously choosing to not ingest animal flesh or products because it feels icky or off to you is also a perfectly good reason to not eat animals or animal products! It’s okay if it is as simple and straightforward as that, and I hope it is.

Eating meat is also a great opportunity to reflect on the fact that your life costs lives. From the lives of animals to the lives of your ancestors. Let eating meat be your reminder to stop for a moment and give thanks to these lives. Let it be your moment to remember that life is a circle and that someday, you will be required to also lay your body down on that sacrificial altar. Let it remind you that you are not, actually, a god or a goddess, but a mortal with this one precious life. Let it remind you that Death will come for you. How do you want to live?

Finally, I believe that consciously farming and ranching is spiritual and certainly part of an individual’s spiritual path. We need to support these individuals, not blanket boycott their work because of the ill-practices of the masses.

Thank you for reading this,


The Divine Feminine in Mercury Retrograde: A Reframing

The Divine Feminine in Mercury Retrograde: A Reframing

Mercury Retrograde Gets Blamed For Communication Issues, But Are We Missing The Point?

Mercury went retrograde yesterday, April 9th, which means Mercury appears to be going backwards in orbit from our vantage point on Earth right now. Mercury goes retrograde three or four times a year for about three weeks each time.

As the planet that rules communication, all sorts of wonky things can happen during a Mercury Retrograde (Rx). Last year, my husband and I loaded a shipping container in the States and shipped it to Costa Rica. There were some miscommunications and mess ups and the container was, I kid you not, held in port for the entire three weeks of Mercury Retrograde. The day Mercury went direct our container finally left port and headed for Costa Rica.

Mercury's orbit. It only appears to be going backwards in relation to the Earth's orbit. Mercury’s orbit. It only appears to be going backwards in relation to the Earth’s orbit.

What To Do During Mercury Retrograde

As a general rule of thumb, it’s smart to check and re-check any communication during Mercury Rx. Mercury Rx is also considered to be a time when progress and productivity will wane a bit. Big purchases are advised against, as something will likely go wrong with the item or the transaction, and signing contracts, especially without going over them with a fine tooth comb, is also advised against during a Mercury Rx.

What can you do?

It’s been said that any actions that begin with “Re” are good ideas at this time:

Relax. Reinvent. Redo. Reiterate. Reconnect. Reflect. Respond. Rethink. Reframe. Retreat. Review. Reconsider. Return. Receive. Repeat.

Notice anything?

All of these words reflect feminine ways of being and doing.

What if Mercury Rx is really just a cosmic balancing of energies? A chance for a masculine-ruled planet/energy to balance the scales a bit? What if instead of jumping hoops to survive Mercury Rx, we relax into it and consciously explore a feminine way of communicating?

Instead of trying to outsmart Mercury Rx, go with it’s flow to the best of your abilities:

Relax. Reflect. Respond. Reconnect. Retreat. Receive. Repeat.

Mercury is, after all, the messenger of the gods.

In love and darkness,


P.S. Mercury is retrograde in 2017 during the following dates:

  • April 9 – May 3
  • August 12 – September 5
  • December 3 – December 22